When you work on purifying yourself, that purity naturally overflows the bounds of your personality and inundates all those around you. Your silence cools the world, when there is sufficient silence within you. You cannot blame others for conditions in your personal life, else you will also blame others for the collective life of the planet.
Remember that love is first; the Beloved is found after. May you seek silence on that sentence. Joy is first. It meets the exterior stimuli much after. Love, joy, consciousness, and God are all synonyms. Seek the basic meaning of any one of these words and the rest are found as well. Love is not a feeling, it is a force, a palpable force. Joy is not a temporary sentiment, but a force, a palpable force that wells up and fills you from inside. Otherwise, all of the exterior alambanas¹ that you hang on to for love and joy are going to crumble to dust one after the other. It is through celibacy, through intensifying the prana force, through silence and meditation that you will discover within yourself the source of love and of joy.
In the ancient texts on the philosophy of Bhakti, devotion, it is said, "Love is God." The name of God is "Prema", Love. Elsewhere in the Upanishadic texts we are told that Joy is God, "Anandam Brahma."
Sentiments, states of mind, are not created by exterior forces. Within you there is a reservoir; within you, these states of mind are merely winds that blow on the surface of that reservoir. You need only look there, not in the mud and mire of the unconscious associations. And there is a vast pure sky which is the same as the depth of this lake of peace and silence within you. "Ramnivas," means the "Lord's dwelling place." May you become a Ramnivas: the Lord's dwelling place.
1. This term in Yoga means all that mind hangs on to, leans on, needs for support; the props. It is also the term for objects of concentration, for details of which see the author's commentary on the Yoga-Sutras 1.17.